In our tenth episode we talk about selfcare outside of a relationship and how it might change inside a relationship.

Intro Description:

• How we care for ourselves when we are single.
• How to set boundaries in your self care routines.
• Surrounding yourself in people that will grow with you.

Links

• 4 Tendencies book https://www.amazon.com/The-Four-Tendencies-audiobook/dp/B071L426J6/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3OD4J577HL288&keywords=4+tendencies+gretchen+rubin&qid=1671040995&sprefix=4+ten%2Caps%2C223&sr=8-1
• 4 Tendencies Quiz  https://gretchenrubin.com/quiz/the-four-tendencies-quiz/

Timestamps / Bullet Point Summary:

• 0-1:45 Intro 

• 1:45-2:10 Different phases of relationships.
• 2:17-3:52 LK asks ‘Why is their a tendency to take care of ourselves when we are single?
• 3:57-4:44 SM shares her thoughts on the motivation that creates these shifts ‘core motivations’ *I want to look hot to attract or *I want to feel good and live long.
• 4:45-5:30 SM shares how individually we will often be motivated by our environment and people we are surrounded with. * Setting up for an environment that encourages you to be self-motivated.
• 5:32-6:47 LK shares her experience and history with different type of relationships to find the person that brings out the best out in her. * Finding the best match.
• 6:48-9:30 SM shares memories of her  former relationship with  a fitness professional fitness trainer and competitor.
• 9:51-10:59 LK talks about movement being a NON-Negotiable out of the top 5 non- negotiables. Everyone has non-negotiables in a relationship.
• 11-12:45 LK talks about her promise to herself and how it didn’t always go over well with the people in her past. *people are not always supportive. * FInd the people who support you.
• 12:55-13:55 SM avoids the friction habit changes in groups  by communicating ahead of time.
• 13:55-14:55 SM How to feel okay with your new healthy lifestyle.
• 14:55-15:57 LK Shares about the abrupt shift and its okay.
• 16-17:59 SM talks about learning to have a new habit with food.
• 18-18:50 LK agrees on the importance of letting people know your new habits with communication.
• 19:19-20 LK reviews and talks about challenges for many clients making a change in their relationship for new healthy habits.
• 20-21:10 LK Reflect on having a family and committing to a healthy life. Good habits  only make your relationship better.
• 21:11-22 SM it looks different for everyone in all relationships
• 22-23:40 SM shares her history of enjoying alcohol with her partner.
• 23:42-24:24 LK shares her history of a relationship with unhealthy habits .
• 24:25-26 LK shares her relationship with healthy habits. * communications is key
• 26:08-26:57 SM shares her experience when she stopped drinking
• 27-27:40 LK Reflects on Shannon's ability to communicate well.
• 27:40-30 SM responds to LKs reflection and talks about her motivations.
• 30-31 Talks about rebel archetype.
• 31:07-34 LK & SM talk about the book and quiz  4 Tendencies. SM share that the archetype who are people pleasers and obligers tend to get emotionally exhausted easier.
• 34-35 LK talks about the importance of committing to yourself to be your best self ina relationship so you can evolve together.
• 35:02-36:28 SM share the importance of being rooted in your values and commitments to yourself.
• 36:29-36:39 LK shares the importance of  communicating your goals and new habits but don't expect your partner to change.
• 36:40-37:58 SM talks about one of her earlier clients with a thyroid condition and how her family all eventually joined on by one.

38:05-39:10 LK reiterates making changes and after it sticks for a long time you will inspire others. Lead by example.